Open Thread: Life Expectations
by Kelly
What are your life expectations? So many of us want the white picket fence, the kids, the car and the husband or wife. While it’s great to dream big and think positively about the future, how strongly do you hold onto your expectations? Are you setting yourself up for disappointment or would you rather try and fail than to have never tried at all?
Since I’m plagued by writer’s block lately, I’d like to have an open thread discussing…you! What are your goals? Did you think your life would turn out a certain way, but when you look back you realize you’re somewhere you never expected to be?
Personally, my life has taken the course I’d expected (so far). I’d always dreamed of going to college, and now I’m almost in my senior year. After graduation, I hope to get a great career and find a significant other…but what if it doesn’t go as planned? My mother cautions me not to count on anything too much, because life can take unexpected turns. For example, she never expected to raise my brother and me as a single mother, but divorce happens and life happens. I’m still hoping my life turns out the way I want it to, but I try to keep my mind open to the many different possibilities.
What are your thoughts?
I was inspired by this article about Michelle Obama in which she discusses her career & life plans and how her career took second place to Barack’s goal to become President. She is happy with how things turned out, but it made me think about personal expectations and plans. At what point are someone else’s plans more important than yours? Are you willing to make that sacrifice?
Guess I’m just having a reflective Valentine’s Day :-) (Speaking of which, Happy Singles Awareness Day!)
xo,
Dollface
I would like to get married to my partner of 6 years one day. But I’m not certain it’s going to happen.
What I really want for my life is to become a successful small business owner never having to answer to a shitty boss.
I think all you need is love – passions/hobbies/career you love, and of course, people to love. :]
happy singles awareness day eh???
<3 and miss you girly!
honestly, three years ago (even ONE year ago) looking into the future i did NOT see this for myself. i am pleased with how things are right now. i’m proud of my present state but i rarely hold long-term commitments or plans due to my unpredictable nature. i learned early that i can’t hold true – so i sort of make it up as i go.
Happy (belated) Valentine’s Day! <3 My life has panned out slightly differently than I anticipated, but definitely for the better :) As for life expectations.. I just want to have a good time, and to have a rewarding career which I love! As long as I can look back and know that I’ve pursued everything that made me happy, I’ll be pleased!
Everytime I try to plan my life it turns out the opposite. I certainly didn’t plan to have Kaidin when I was 17 – I wanted to go to uni and become the next Lois Lane. I didn’t plan to get depressed and spend years wallowing in misery unable to make any decisions or hold onto relationships and I didn’t plan to have another baby!!
But now that I’m here I’m actually a lot happier than I ever planned on being.
Now I want the italian villa style house on the edge of the suburbs with a rose and herb garden and the white picket fence. I want a cocker spaniel that is magically house trained. I want good friends and the boy to be around somewhere and the kids to go to private school. I want to win Lotto, finish my degree and start teaching. I want to spend my weekends at cafes, op shops and taking photos – I want my own studio set up in the garage. I want to travel with and without the kids. I want to be even happier than i am now.
But if none of that eventuates, life will still be good. Plans are no good unless they are flexible, I’ve found, that way you don’t have disappointments, only surprises!
Like Shannon, every time I made 5 year, 3 year or even 2 year plans, something would happen, I’d change my mind and the course would alter. The minute I stopped worrying about developing, sticking to, or even having a plan, I was leaps and bounds happier as a person.
Only at 30 have I landed in a job that I am completely and utterly happy with. With friends who are largely in the same age group, I have to acknowledge I’m incredibly fortunate in that.
As I watch some friends go through divorce and others have their first children, I also feel like you can have all the good intentions in the world and life will still throw your those curve balls. & even tho I don’t plan to marry my partner or have children, I’m not necessarily immune to that. I think acknowledging your fortunes and changing what doesn’t work is really the path I’ve found to work best for me.
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