Comments on: She Lived Happily Ever After…Alone?

By: Shannon

Shannon — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 15:16:38 +0000

I am lucky – I get all the benefits of being single because my partner/best friend/i HATE the term boyfriend lives on the other side of the country at the moment and he is busy househunting and trying to keep his job so I don’t even have to call him very often. Unless I want to.

There are downsides and upsides. Biggest upside to being in a relationship – regular sex with the same person. oh and having someone who loves you (see – look at my priorities. they are ALL THERE baby!). Biggest downside – losing your independence on some level and having to share decisions (like what to call the baby… mutter mutter.)

Biggest upside to being single is you get to be completely responsible for yourself – your own happiness, your own fashion choices and what to name the baby. Oh and who you sleep with. The biggest downside is that you get to be completely responsible for yourself – your own sadness, your lame fashion sense and having to change every single fricking nappy yourself..

I love the best of both worlds. And I can be totally happy either way. I’m very adaptable :) lol

By: dollyann

dollyann — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 14:19:38 +0000

For me, that’s a tough question to ask… because on the one hand, I’m extremely private. Even when I’m at home, I spend a lot of time by myself and am unusually introverted. On the other hand, I don’t want to be 83 living in a house with hundreds of cats. I think for the moment, I’m okay with being single, but later on I might like a relationship. I guess what comes with that relationship is the boundaries that I’ve always had in my life… space to myself, time to think, etc. My happiness really is dependent on those things, not a guy. :)

By: Dollface

Dollface — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 18:29:44 +0000

@ dakota — Haha I hear that. I’m pretty selfish (and strong-willed) too…the power struggles between my boyfriend and I are definitely our biggest problem.

@ M.E. — That’s the attitude I like to hear! (and yep, been there too…the sad and pathetic needy creature in a relationship). It’s really great that you feel focused and powerful…in fact that reminds me of my biggest problem with Sex and the City: all the women claim to feel empowered by their single status but none really ever act on that sentiment.

(If you can’t tell, I’ve been watching a lot of Sex and the City re-runs lately)

@ Harlequin (feels funny to direct comments at you) — that’s my fear too. of course you already know that..

By: Harlequin

Harlequin — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 16:48:51 +0000

well i am finally okay being single and alone right now, after a few years of desperately dating the wrong guys. but i do fear being alone when i am older, and i am trying to realize that it is not a bad thing after all. i mean right now i can do what i want and i do not have to make my life revolve around anyone else. but i still want all those cliche things in the future – kids, dog, white picket fence, hot police officer husband….yeah….i’m going through my uniform phase…

-Harlequin

By: M.E.

M.E. — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 15:22:12 +0000

I dream of finding that special someone who understands me completely – but at the same time, I’m not holding my breath. If I were to sit around and wallow in my “singledom” it would be such a waste! I don’t feel sad or pathetic – I feel focused and powerful. The person I once was when I was in a relationship, now that’s sad and pathetic. Haha!

By: dakota

dakota — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 13:47:49 +0000

I’m happy to be alone, but I think this is predominately due to the fact that I am incredibly selfish. And other people are sort of a bother. I must work on this.