Comments on: I’m Not a Slut – I’m Emotionally Easy.

By: Dollface

Dollface — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 12:42:54 +0000

@ Shannon – Yeah I think our template doesn’t show the authors. I might start indicating who wrote what, on certain posts. However, Harlequin and I often agree on issues, so it’s rarely a problem. Thanks for the help.

@Cousin – Eight IS enough. I thought it was a great speech.

By: Cousin

Cousin — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 21:29:00 +0000

Yeah, let me know what you think :)

Also, Obama=amazing! “Eight is ENOUGH”

By: Dollface

Dollface — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 03:22:29 +0000

Heyy cousin :-) Let me check this article out.

Did you watch Obama’s speech at the DNC?? Completely inspiring. Loved it.

By: Cousin

Cousin — Fri, 29 Aug 2008 01:55:57 +0000

Great article Harlequin :)

I came across this article about high-end prostitution and thought you guys might find it interesting as well: http://radaronline.com/from-the-magazine/2008/08/secrets_of_a_hipster_hooker_01.php

(Didn’t know where else to put it… )

By: Shannon

Shannon — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 23:53:35 +0000

hrm, hang on, it looks like you already use the ‘users’ bit.. I thought having two users would sign you off as two users, but apparently it only does it on certain templates.

You would have to do it with CSS. Or just make a little signature graphic each and glue it to the end of your posts.

By: Harlequin

Harlequin — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 16:43:29 +0000

shannon i love that you shared that story – i mean yes it is terrible but i can feel for you because, like you and dollface, i have done things like that too. my first few days of college last year i drank vodka for 4 days straight because my then-boyfriend was cheating on me. this did not end well! used to be hard for me to admit that, but men make me crazy. honestly, crazy. i wonder if i will ever meet a man that doesn’t drive me insane.

and if i did, would i even want him?

ahh attraction is such a bitch to figure out. but honestly, i can say i am happy now in spite of my past, and i am able to find humor in my insanity and emotional outbursts. no one can say we are not honest, and we always have interesting stories….

-Harlequin

by the way, what is the wordpress function that allows you to, i suppose, “personalize” posts? i am still trying to figure out my way around this site, i am technologically challenged…

By: Shannon

Shannon — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 12:37:23 +0000

I think it’s becomes obvious in the comments who wrote what, as usually if someone posts something personal the other responds.
I think there is a wordpress function to differentiate who is who though.

By: Dollface

Dollface — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 12:16:53 +0000

By the way — I have a question for our return readers: Since Harlequin and I write pretty personal posts, would it be helpful if we indicated who was writing each one? (I’m thinking specifically of this post, or the post I wrote about my boyfriend, for example). I have no idea if WordPress shows who writes what, or if it even matters.

Thanks!

By: Dollface

Dollface — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 12:14:42 +0000

Hey Shannon don’t worry about choking up our comments…I’m enjoying reading all of these!

@ rachel — there really isn’t much wrong. I’m right up there with Shannon & Harlequin with the whole “wears her heart on her sleeve” thing. My first boyfriend told me “You fall in love too easily, I’m afraid you’ll get hurt someday.” Well he hurt me eventually, and so has every other guy I know. Don’t get me wrong, I have actually been in some eerily healthy relationships, but I always end up being hurt. Some say I just feel things too deeply, but I don’t know any other way of existing.

@ Shannon — I really really agree with your first comment. It’s hard for me, as Harley’s friend, to see her go through the bullshit that this guy put her through. Of course, I know too well that when you’re infatuated, nothing (not even the advice of a friend) will stand between you and your man. Even if he’s not much of a man… ;-)

Also, what happened on your 21st birthday sounds terrible & yet very deja vu. I can’t count how many times I’ve acted “insane” around men, and they just get fed up with me and leave (whether for good, or just for the night). I’m especially emotional when I drink, which can sometimes have some interesting outcomes…

By: Shannon

Shannon — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 11:01:09 +0000

haha, but bad sex is so much fun :)

On my 21st birthday my best friend rocked up about 3 hours late. To deal with my family without him being there I got incredibly drunk, plus I’d taken painkillers for my tattoo. By the time we got home I was an emotional wreck and I wanted him to come inside. It was my birthday dammit and I was gonna get what I wanted. He said no because he had to go home and ring this girl that he had been kinda seeing.
I went nuts. Cried and screamed and raged and threatened and cajoled, all right there in my car park and he just sat in his car silently smoking. I can’t even remember what I said, but in the end he told me he would let me cool off and drove off. I was hanging on to the car door about to get dragged down my driveway and I still wouldn’t let go! Then I pretty much went inside, slit my wrists and fell asleep. Seeing as i’m still here, obviously did a bad job of the slitting :)

I’m pretty sure there were more instances like this. Even worse ones in fact, including me telling a guy he could do whatever he wanted to me as long as he stayed with me just a few more minutes. the guy in the above scenario I am so deeply in love with it hurts and I’m moving across the country just to be closer to him. Just don’t tell him that. And we have amazing amazing sex.

I wear my heart on my sleeve too. Well, I did. Now I’m a bit harder and I tend to look after my own interests more – having kids does that to you I’m afraid – I can no longer afford to fall into months-long malaises after being treated badly. I fall in love so quickly and so deeply that it leaves me spinning. Luckily, I fall back out just as quick.

Just continue to make sure you are getting your pleasure. Coz once there is more pain than pleasure it starts having some long lasting effects on your psyche. But yeah, certainly don’t ever let society tell you you’re a slut because you go for what you want in the bedroom (or car as it may be… or beach. or park bench. or movie theatre… I always wanted to try a movie theatre), that makes you a goddess, not a slut!

I’ll stop choking up your comments now :)

PS: If you ever get that perfect guy who loves how open you are and is good in bed, ask him if he has a hot brother….