Addendum to the Comments Policy
by Harlequin
Allllll right ladies and gentlemen….
So, here at therottenlittlegirls.com we have received our first negative poster! Since we do focus on somewhat controversial issues, this is a moment of pride for us. So, go on and read and feel free to express your opinions.
BUT be sure to read the comments policy first!
Here is a letter I sent to explain why a certain poster has been disallowed from further commentary:
i simply blocked you because you were incessantly commenting after you had already made your point. enough is enough. we are not angry in spite of what you may believe. we do disagree, and like we said – you have every right to your opinion. it’s not wrong. your comments are still up.
but it is our site. moderation does exist for a reason, and you are right – we are “controlling” our own blog to a certain extent. as much as i dislike censorship, i feel you are abusing the opportunity to comment. you have expressed your opinion multiple times, we have responded, so i think it is time to end the middle school merry go round of discussion.
like i said, we do not have hard feelings. we simply believe that you have expressed your opinion adequately (as have we) and therefore no more comments are necessary. we would like to hear from other readers who may feel insecure about commenting because of your consistent attitude. with the number of comments you keep leaving, we feel harassed. since you refuse to embrace the opportunity to stop commenting yourself, we are taking it into our own hands.
thank you, and good luck with your blog.
- Harlequin
Now this commentary is looking a little ridiculous to me. I am tempted to delete it, but as Dollface and I emphasize in our comments policy, we don’t like to stifle free speech. We love the comments we get for the most part, even ones that we disagree with. Engaging in debates is part of the fun of all this. No one’s opinion is wrong, but it’s not okay to come on here and behave in a rude and condescending manner. We are not here to get into personal arguments about lifestyle choices. When someone feels personally attacked, it’s time to stop. Express your opinion, and leave it at that.
This poster has continued to comment on our site in spite of being asked to stop. He has spammed our site, linked to us on places like reddit.com under the title “Feminists Bashing Men”, and even linked us to nude photos on the internet. Such behavior is not welcome here. He has referred to us explicitly as “controlling” and “abusive” when in fact we just feel harassed by none other than this poster himself. We believe that the dignity of our blog is being sacrificed through his repetitive harassing comments, and therefore we are “controlling” the comments from him (which angered him more than a bit I might add – I guess he is used to having his way all the time).
Having said that, he has voiced his opinion (and of course feel free to read more of this on his blog) and we appreciate that. However, this circle of comments about a personal relationship that he is not even involved in needs to stop right now, along with the sweeping generalizations he is making about the male side of humanity. Monogamy or lack thereof is not a gender-specific issue.
Other comments are certainly welcome. Even controversial ones. We just ask that you keep it within the realm of reason. You know we love hearing your opinions!
-Harlequin
P.S. Does anyone else agree that while censorship sucks, moderation exists for a reason? We are all up for hearing different opinions (yes, even disagreement!) but we think that posters like manupmen should take the excessive continuation of their arguments to their own sites….instead of constantly posting on our dime!
Thanks for visiting my blog where I did the same thing to the same person for the same reason! Such a troll. Keep up the good fight ladies!!!
Absolutely. Blog moderation exists for a noble purpose, and it’s much different than censorship. Blogs, in my opinion, are safe spots for people with unpopular viewpoints that typically get drowned out (i.e. feminist, anti-racist, etc.) Moderators keep debates from getting too heated and allow frequently silenced voices to be heard; I think that’s great. What’s even better about RLG is that you two (dollface and Harlequin) try and keep an open environment where people can disagree with you. Kudos!
If you want my opinion, it was manupmen who was trying to censor you. He read an article that may have threatened his ideas about men, women, and relationships, and so he tried to shut you up by stereotyping your boyfriend, accusing him of infidelity, and becoming insulting. His subsequent behavior proves he is intent on silencing your ideas. I definitely agree with you that if manupmen had so much to say, he should start his own blog and post his feelings there. Both of you, dollface and Harlequin, have been more than patient enough with him. WordPress is open to everyone; he hasn’t been permanently censored.
That said, I keep my comments policy a little more stringent than RLG’s for one simple reason; I lack your patience. :) Trolls piss me off even though I know they shouldn’t, and so I’m willing to risk alienating a few reasonable dissenters by just deleting what annoys me. Manupmen would have suffocated in a quick troll death on my page, mwahaha. :P Really, he should be grateful to you two for being so respectful and eager to engage; it was well beyond what he deserved.
yes – this guy is a real piece of work. apparently he just targets blogs related to women and harasses them! i did find it funny that he was calling us controlling and abusive – when he was behaving in a harassing and very manipulative behavior. people such as him are toxic and he can take that elsewhere.
but yes, we had to make our comments policy after that – i definitely respect moderation a lot more now!
-Harlequin
C’mon, now, don’t be too hard on him. After all, what would the great Dr. Freud say?
Imagine how hard it would be to go through life so…inadequate. Imagine how hard it must be to…limp through life; where small things become huge problems; where stamina is…lacking.
And, now, it’s time for my acceptance speech.
“Thank you, thank you. Many thanks to all the “little people” who have helped me achieve the rank of Major Bitch. I have long aspired to this status and it is with great pride I accept this award.”
haha rachel, you are right. it must take so much effort just to be this guy, i really shouldn’t make life more difficult for him!
…but it’s just so much fun…
-Harlequin
p.s. congratulations on becoming Major Bitch, that is something i aspire to as well!