Rotten Little Girls

Addendum to the Comments Policy

by Harlequin

Allllll right ladies and gentlemen….

So, here at therottenlittlegirls.com we have received our first negative poster!  Since we do focus on somewhat controversial issues, this is a moment of pride for us.  So, go on and read and feel free to express your opinions.

BUT be sure to read the comments policy first!

Here is a letter I sent to explain why a certain poster has been disallowed from further commentary:

i simply blocked you because you were incessantly commenting after you had already made your point. enough is enough. we are not angry in spite of what you may believe. we do disagree, and like we said – you have every right to your opinion. it’s not wrong. your comments are still up.

but it is our site. moderation does exist for a reason, and you are right – we are “controlling” our own blog to a certain extent. as much as i dislike censorship, i feel you are abusing the opportunity to comment. you have expressed your opinion multiple times, we have responded, so i think it is time to end the middle school merry go round of discussion.

like i said, we do not have hard feelings. we simply believe that you have expressed your opinion adequately (as have we) and therefore no more comments are necessary. we would like to hear from other readers who may feel insecure about commenting because of your consistent attitude.  with the number of comments you keep leaving, we feel harassed.  since you refuse to embrace the opportunity to stop commenting yourself, we are taking it into our own hands.

thank you, and good luck with your blog.

- Harlequin


Now this commentary is looking a little ridiculous to me.  I am tempted to delete it, but as Dollface and I emphasize in our comments policy, we don’t like to stifle free speech.  We love the comments we get for the most part, even ones that we disagree with.  Engaging in debates is part of the fun of all this.  No one’s opinion is wrong, but it’s not okay to come on here and behave in a rude and condescending manner.  We are not here to get into personal arguments about lifestyle choices.  When someone feels personally attacked, it’s time to stop.  Express your opinion, and leave it at that.

This poster has continued to comment on our site in spite of being asked to stop.  He has spammed our site, linked to us on places like reddit.com under the title “Feminists Bashing Men”, and even linked us to nude photos on the internet.  Such behavior is not welcome here.  He has referred to us explicitly as “controlling” and “abusive” when in fact we just feel harassed by none other than this poster himself.  We believe that the dignity of our blog is being sacrificed through his repetitive harassing comments, and therefore we are “controlling” the comments from him (which angered him more than a bit I might add – I guess he is used to having his way all the time).

Having said that, he has voiced his opinion (and of course feel free to read more of this on his blog) and we appreciate that.  However, this circle of comments about a personal relationship that he is not even involved in needs to stop right now, along with the sweeping generalizations he is making about the male side of humanity.  Monogamy or lack thereof is not a gender-specific issue.

Other comments are certainly welcome.   Even controversial ones.  We just ask that you keep it within the realm of reason.  You know we love hearing your opinions!

-Harlequin

P.S.   Does anyone else agree that while censorship sucks, moderation exists for a reason?  We are all up for hearing different opinions (yes, even disagreement!) but we think that posters like manupmen should take the excessive continuation of their arguments to their own sites….instead of constantly posting on our dime!

Loving the One You’re With

by Kelly

In the fight to love myself there have been many casualties. Unfortunately, it took me a while to realize that I was naming the wrong enemies. Take my boyfriend, for example. When we started going out, things were fun & sweet. Then as things got serious I got to know more about him. There were things I didn’t like, such as the bikini-clad women on his computer desktop and his porn collection. I ignored the fact that he was a 22 year old man who hadn’t had a girlfriend in well, years. I also overlooked the fact that he eventually changed his wallpaper and favored sex with me over perusing porn. Instead of being happy with him, I cried often. I was jealous. Suspicious. I thought he might be some sexual deviant who secretly wanted his women tan and plastic.

Newsflash, Dollface. He doesn’t! As my boyfriend has repeatedly stated (and acted upon), he wants me. He loves my pale skin, my real breasts, my little tummy bump (“It’s soft and cute!”). I can’t blame him for his (largely innocuous) actions before he met me. I mean, let’s be honest. While he watched a little porn, I was busy shacking up with real penises . . . something he has taken in stride, I might add.

So I have come to realize, not all men cheat or watch porn every day, or compare our bodies to those of strippers and porn stars. When you fall in love, look for the signs that he wants and needs you, not some fantasy girl. Remember that you’re his fantasy realized.

I’m glad I have been able to overcome my insecurities in this relationship, because once the fear and anxiety faded away I was able to see him for who he was: a great, loving guy.

How about you? What have you overcome in your relationships (past or present)?

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